When you’re preparing for an important conversation, do you put as much thought into when and where it will take place as you do into what you’re going to say?
No matter how well you plan your words, if the time and place aren’t right, your conversation will not succeed.
When someone is talking to you, do you spend more time thinking about how you're going to respond, or what they really feel, mean and want?
If you’re like most people, you spend more than twice as much energy planning your response.
I have been teaching presentation skills for years. What I notice time and time again is this:
Speakers dread pauses.
Audiences love pauses.
Why Do Speakers Dread Pauses?
Often, it’s because they feel that if they pause, they will seem boring.
Imagine, you're in a meeting. You've got an insight to share. You wait for the right moment: maybe a pause in the conversation. You listen carefully as others exchange ideas back and forth. Finally, the right moment comes! You lean forward and open your mouth... and then you close it.
“Public speaking training is a waste of time and money!”
That’s the message of a Forbes article that a friend of mine shared a with me recently. While the message is hard-hitting, it provoked thoughts that I’ve been contemplating for a long time.
Several studies have showed us, alarmingly, that communication and interpersonal skills are on the decline.
And at the same time, in our service-based economy, these are fundamental to running successful businesses.
The reason for the decline is not surprising.
Whilst Motivational Speaker is a generic term, and today’s Professional Speaker is more likely to be informational than motivational, this is the term that Conference Organizers are most likely to search for.